We all have heard, at least once, about Tinder and how related it is to one-night stands dates rather than other apps, which more centered in long-term relationships.
Nowadays, most people are interested in having sex… there is no point denying it. And, what a great opportunity for all of us to have an app that helps us to establish this connection with others within the same interests, right?
But, do all people have what it needs to be as successful as they expected to be on Tinder? Maybe not.
Take a closer look at some of the advice we have collected for you. Either if you are an Adonis and very successful on Tinder or just new on this field, these essentials steps will definitely help you find a perfect hookup date.
7 Ethical Steps to Hookup on Tinder
1. Keep it cool, don’t take it too seriously…
Having a relaxed and easy-going attitude will definitely increase your chances of finding someone -and if it doesn’t, at least you will be chill and having a good time, no matter what will happen. So, just swipe through some photos and profiles of your interest, select some to start a conversation and just go with the flow.
People who get too obsessed with Tinder and with the idea of being liked back, will not have a great moment when someone else rejects them… If they do it, so what? Go for the next profile!
2. Don’t be too obvious…
Even though having a Tinder account will mean “hookup” for almost everyone, showing yourself too obvious about it will give you a bad and stressful experience. If you find someone of your interest, and they like you back, just wait a little longer to come up with the sex talk.
Remember, for most people and maybe even more for women, been treated as “sex toys” is a negative point. So, if you are a guy and you are seeking a hookup through Tinder, keep it cool, just relax and enjoy the process.
3. Your best investment? Your profile picture selection.
As an online dating app, Tinder is very visual. The first thing all users do is taking a look at your profile picture and photo’s album. This is like your cover letter. So, you better have it right! You don’t want to give a wrong impression about yourself.
But what exactly defines a profile picture as “the one”? Take some notes: first of all, make sure your face and part of your body have a clear view of you. So, forget about sunglasses, and please, do not use a group picture, no matter how great you look or how much you love your friends, having a group picture will confuse others on which one are they talking with.
For the rest of your album, select some pictures that better describe your hobbies, likes or just some funny pictures of your choice.
4. Always be yourself
Showing yourself as you are is always the best option when trying to find someone else out there- no matter which type of relationship. There is all kind of tastes when talking about attraction and sex appeal. So, don’t try to be the typical funny guy if it feels too forced for you, there are some other people interested in the characteristics you might have, like being a more serious and smarter person.
The worse scenario?
Going out on a date by being someone you are not. As a result, there will be 2 people on a date with wrong connection -or no real connection at all- and I can assure you it will be not a pleasurable memory for any of you.
5. The first message is the key
Showing interest and the intention of having a conversation rather than just going directly to the point will be a plus for most people using Tinder, especially for guys. On the contrary, if you don’t show up enough interest, you will be put into the friend zone… I’m quite sure no one using Tinder will want this in the first place.
For most people, the dating field and the hookup culture is just a fun game to be played. So, finding some playful competition will be the extra point your conversations will need. This will create intense sexual tension and open the chances of creating some interesting “prizes” for the winner. Dare you? What’s on your mind?
Selecting the first message is maybe the most important thing to do here. Therefore, you can show yourself as an interesting and funny person or just as a serious and boring one too.
Be careful about what you first say and make sure to search for some information in the other’s profile that might help you to select the right first blowing-mind message. This will show how interested you are in them.
6. Create an opportunity to go out on a date…
So, you have reached this point… you have found a match, the conversation is going great, what’s next? Go out on a date as quickly as you can!
Some pictures could look incredibly attractive and for some, what they are like while messaging is different from what they are on an offline date. So, suggest to hang out in a public place and depending on the chemistry or the content of your conversations, decide whether to plan a night-club date or a more chill one like bowling.
So, what’s the secret behind a successful date? The main idea is to build a great scenario and to show yourself as casual and cool as possible. Don’t let your partner realize that you do actually have the intention of having sex on the first date, but instead, let the magic come along during your date.
7. Don’t rush things up…
So, there you are, having a great time on a date. Even though both of you are interested in having a casual sex encounter, there is no need for going too fast and running all the prelude fun. Invest some quality time talking about your interests, telling each other some funny stories about yourself. Maybe having one drink or two -not the entire bottle, you don’t want to get drunk and give the wrong image.
Just then, make your move, show your best seduction skills. Remember that the most important thing about hooking-up is creating an awesome date story, so both will just enjoy every step of the way.
So, if you want a Tinder hookup, then don’t take it so seriously. If you play it cool, you’ll eventually end up matching with someone. It’ll take you some time and but that’s all part of the learning game.
On the other hand, have anyone of you actually asked yourself if actually the “hookup culture” is as active as everybody out there thinks it is?
We did, and the results are quite interesting and surprising.
Here we have collected some stats that will show you how the hookup culture might be dying:
According to some recent finds of the ABODO apartments’ survey -an online apartment marketplace for college students- only 11% of men and less than 2% of women said they were interested in having sex on their first date… I bet you didn’t saw that one coming!
Here’s my article on Hookup Culture, give it a read and you’ll be definitely be shocked.